You're turning 25 and are afraid of it? Feel bad about it?

I guess I can kindda relate to that. I was scared when I turned 18, then when I turned 20 and then again when I turned 25. It always seemed that those years ment some major change, like s milestone that shows how your life passes you by.
I was also afraid of getting my diploma, because it was another milestone that would mean I would have to leave my "carefree days" behind me and become somebody else.

The best advice I can give you is to start trusting in yourself. No one should tell you how your life should look like. No problem can be so big that it could stop you from achieving your goal - but the goal really has to be yours. If you're trying to live up to somebody elses expectations you won't have enough inner strength to overcome the obsticles - because your body and mind just won't see the point in it, but if you'll really start persuing your goals, you will find hidden strength within you. Don't worry.

Sometimes all you need is some blind trust.

I guess it might be uncomfortable to talk about it in public, so feel free to send me a PM or an E-mail (you can try your luck on MSN but I'm rarely using it) if ever you wish to talk about it.

Oh and just to maybe brighten your face - in my country 27th of April is one of the major holidays and most of Slovenia feels very proud about that day!

why is everybody taking it so dramaticaly? i seriously think there is nothing good or wrong about being in higher age. and boy, 25?!(i mean girl) you r just like breezy white blossom on a cherry tree(not even purple yet).

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(_r.u.s.s. @ Apr 21 2007, 07:54 PM) [snapback]287859[/snapback]</div>No, there is nothing wrong, but at least in my case I've always been wondering have I already missed out on something? Was my life really fullfilling enough? And special days like birthdays, New Years... seem to be just the sort of days when I start to wonder, because I get the sense of time passing by. Nothing wrong with getting older, but simply letting time slip away without getting enough out of it can be a reason to change something in your own life and start living a life of greater quality.

Hmm that's interesting I never really notice my birthdays as a milestone or something important, the only difference I felt when turning 18 is that I was actually legal to do some things but that has never stopped me in the past. Also I am going to college from high but I take it as a change for better not worse. There is really nothing bad with growing older as long as you can do things you want.

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Sebatianos @ Apr 21 2007, 08:13 PM) [snapback]287862[/snapback]</div>No, there is nothing wrong, but at least in my case I've always been wondering have I already missed out on something? Was my life really fullfilling enough? And special days like birthdays, New Years... seem to be just the sort of days when I start to wonder, because I get the sense of time passing by. Nothing wrong with getting older, but simply letting time slip away without getting enough out of it can be a reason to change something in your own life and start living a life of greater quality.
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It's hard to find a quality when you're living years of endless solitude in those 4 walls of your own room, you don't have even a single friend to talk to, no firendly shoulder to cry on, when you had to paused your studies on university and all your days are simply hours passing by...

Also, I've got the feeling that I've betrayed myself from the past ---------> http://hitoribotchi.livejournal.com/1222.html

Hopefully things will get better for you, but if you have such a negative stance and only feel sorry for yourself then that is your own fault. You don't have to let time pass by, you can educate yourself about things that interest you over the internet you can really learn a lot of things - from your room. If you feel lonely you can chat with people or discuss with them over forums. (I know it's not like physical communication, but at least it counts for something doesn't it?)
To conclude you should take the best of any given situation no matter how hard it might be for you and how hopeless it might seem, a bit of optimism and you'll be back on your track.

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Kamiko @ Apr 21 2007, 09:34 PM) [snapback]287868[/snapback]</div>Sometimes people make up dreams of what they will do in the future and they dream them for so long, they start thinking those things must become real. But those may become dreams that come from our minds, because we've convince ourselves they are the right dreams for us. But life should bring us new dreams, those that come from the heart and are real here and now and are not an echo from our past. Dreams that you can not predict, but should follow and even abandon if you at any point feel they are not the right dreams anymore.

Do not be afraid of something differnt, something new, something uncertain. The only constant in life is the the process of change.

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Tulac @ Apr 21 2007, 09:48 PM) [snapback]287872[/snapback]</div>
At first I couldn't educate myself in here, because the physical pain was two much to bear. I could hardly stand up sometimes. And the painkillers did no good.
Now, those pain attacks are not that much, but before I knew it, some time has past. And sadly, I've forgot most of the things I was learning so hard (I was on the third year of studies on Japan's language and culture). When you're not using a langugage, you're forgeting it. I forgot a lot. A LOT! But know, when I'm still a prisoner of my tired, worn out body and the threat of new pain, I don't feel like studying at all. Not only I don't have the right materials and no ocassion to learn on my mistakes, but I've also have NO PHYSICAL STRENGHT to just sit up straight and spend hours and hours on practicing kanjies (like one sign, 7 readings, 30 elementar connections with other signs, etc., etc.) With all my problems with heart, sleep, etc., I just can't do it :(

and...why do you think I didn't try internet to kill some of my loneliness? :sos:

But I agree that optimism is notwhat I use often.
No, I'm not an optimist at all.



sorry for my poor english

Well you can always learn over the PC, that requires much less physical strength and it doesn't have to be school related, whatever interests you in life is the key, just something to keep you occupied. If you're not an optimist then things will be much harder for you.

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Tulac @ Apr 22 2007, 01:12 AM) [snapback]287893[/snapback]</div>
learning over the PC is not for me <_< Tried few times but did no good.
Practice use and lots of self-made notes, that's what I prefer.

*sigh* Now I'm too old to die young :blink: