Excellent reply. Thank you!

I'm quite sure I want a serious relationship, not just a playful one. And this coming from a 17 year old guy who's still... Yeah. Kind of amazing, isn't it? I suppose it kind of shows how stupid it is to say ''guys are perverted freaks who only wants to have sex with you'', right? I think girls misunderstands us more than we misunderstand them. I want to be with someone. Make them happy. And the least I'd want to do is hurt someone.

Yes, us guys are definitely misunderstood. Or at least some. :p But enough bragging about not being stereotypical.


''So in short: they're very unpredictable although not that hard to understand if you look back at what they did. In your case, she knew you liked her and when she needed to get something off her chest, she went to the one person she thought would show compassion. Maybe it was also partially out of guilt for turning you down - letting you into a private part of her soul so to speak.''

That does make sense.

Thanks again for the reply. It's very much appreciated. No, really. It is. I hate being confused, and you're helping me to understand things.

Cheers.

By the way, there's a lot of misunderstandings when it comes to girls & boys.

Truth: if a guy is looking for a serious relationship, he'll be more obstinate about it and work harder to keep the relationship alive. Ever wondered why it's usually the guy who gives up the most in a relationship?

Also: guys take a break up harder and need more time to get over it.

Both cases are in general of course - not everyone is the same - but it's very true that guys take brake ups harder and need more time to get over their ex. In fact, a study showed that girls would get several times faster over a guy. They'd also often jump to another guy in a matter of days while guys would do the opposite: refuse to partner with another girl for a lengthy period of time as if in a state of mourning. So far the myth that guys move from girl to girl and refuse to settle down while fearing a serious relationship.

In the end though I'd say that all of this talk is useless since you can never generalize the whole gender. Every person is an individual and reacts differently, thinks differently etc., and damn me if this forum isn't the proof of that.

Truer words have never been spoken. If you take anything away from this thread Simoneer, take that :)

Also, Tulac is still a girl.

Ah soooooooooo, thàt explains a lot!
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True :p That's why I mentioned that as well - but you'd be a fool to not at least recognise general traits and behaviour. We're defined by our emotions, hormones, chemistry, upbringing, culture, etc. When you can see the same traits spread across the world, you can be pretty sure it's not just by chance ;).

In the end we're still tied to our genetics, our instincts, our primal desires and archetypes and while it may not be "politically correct" to point out differences (after all, some seem to think we're all the same which is, frankly, nonsense) it's still a fact. Besides, it makes for lousy advice because it doesn't actually *help* you to recognise behaviour if you assume everyone is different.

I actually added that to my previous post. That everyone's different. But I deleted it. Not sure why, but I couldn't fit it in well...

It's the truth, either way. But, like red_avatar said, ''you'd be a fool to not at least recognise general traits and behaviour''. While everyone is, indeed, different on many points, we still have many things in common in how we are. There's no denying it.

Personally I think those commonalities are more to do with being human than with what does or does not hang between your legs.

Lol. Nice way of putting that last thing.

I tend to disagree - hormones have a big impact on behaviour as well as the other instincts that come with being male/female. And I'm not even mentioning culture which has just as big an impact on how teenagers feel they have to behave.