basically you are right. but as far as i'm concerned i have tried to do so and it didn't
help. i became aware that i was changing my life and myself only to stay together
with the girl...

i think that's ok to a certain degree. but this can also become very dangerous.
you know, when you are together with someone and you love this person, you
should live your live WITH this person, but not FOR this person!
the same goes with rearranging your life.

when you notice that you and your partner become more and more different
and things are getting complicated, it might be a way to reflect on this situation
and change a few things. but when you realize that you have to change aspects
of your life and of your character that belong to the very core which defines you
as a person, you'll soon begin asking yourself if the partnership is really worth
the fact, that you are slowly starting to loose you original attributes.

after all, there are details which make you to what you are and have always been!
and unless these attributes are not bad, there's no need to change all of them, right?

of course, love is something we've got to fight for. but our very self is also something
we should keep as it is. modern times are already forcing humans to change them-
selves in may ways, and people keep on altering their character not only for the
sake of their partners but as well for their jobs, for theire friends, for society in
general!

so, in my view, the most important thing is to stay faithful and loyal to yourself
most of all. this might be misinterpreted as egoism, but i don't mean it this way.

what i'm trying to express is, that when you see that somebody you love and who
used to love you is not sharing your beliefs anymore, you got to admit that this
person does no longer accept you as the person you are. and then you've got
to decide, if you want to abandon yourself or better abandon you partner.

Of course, some healthy ego shouldn't be abandoned. Love is a difficult thing... It's especially sad when you decide to spend your life with someone only to find out much later, that there was not anything that bound you two together. And sometimes, by that time it's too late then to find another friend, and remaining alone for the rest of the life is a bitter experience...

i agree to the first part of your last post! but it's not that you stay together for
years with a person only to find out that there was nothing which both of you
shared...in most cases there really was something keeping together as a bond
but this has merely expired or faded away...

anyway, i do hope that i don't count to the group of persons who will never
ever find someone else to love. i only think that forcing love or going out
(in discos, bars and the like) in order to search for a potential partner is wrong.

some person's ways are predefined to cross each other, and you'll never know
where and when this will happen, and who the one will be. only time can tell....

it's a matter of patience.

One lucky event, and anything is shining again (after you were alone). Life is a tricky thing. ;)

One lucky event, and everything is shining again (after you weren´t alone). Life is a tricky thing. ;)

Well, for that you usually don't need a "lucky" event... Simply breaking up would be enough. :whistle:

Life may be cruel, yes -
Lucky events may be cruel, yes,
But they always tell you something about yourself...

And besides,
I wasn´t speaking of any case spesifically /Edit ( Forgot the /- :angel: ) /-

*breaks up with Rainwife*
:cry: :cry: :cry:
*decides never to listen to Freddy again*
:wall:
*makes up with Rainwife*
:kiss:
*is happy again - and really glad it's all just a made up story, because in real life it couldn't happen - the first part I mean*

Nono, you surely shouldn't break up with her! :blink:
Stay with her and enjoy your lucky life. :ok:

wise words, these are... :sneaky: