In Japan, when a woman turns 25, they call her Kurisumasu ke-ki (Christmas Cake).
Get the cruel joke?
On the 24th everyone wants the cake, but on 25th nobody wants it. XD



Well, I'll turn 25 on April 27th. It gets me pretty upset.

Trapped in my own room from 3 years
No friends. No cake. No present. (hmmm...traditional bday of mine )

Just me staring at the ceiling.


:wallbash:

You should try getting out of that room than, and have yourself a good time.

the..'proverb?' is pretty stupid. i actually cant think of a person who would think in even a bit simmilar way =]
there s nothing bad in being 25..what difference does it make?

There's also a saying in Australia: life begins at 40.

It seems that many talented, imaginative people live fairly isolated lives. I wonder if that's because these folk are dreamers and not practical; visionaries, who are slightly out-of-step with the majority. they are usually very sensitive and honourable. Don't lost confidence in yourself, because self-esteem is vital to achieving anything.

You won't be alone on your birthday this year. We'll celebrate it with you if you have the date listed in your profile. Digital presents will be coming. :)

self-esteem, huh?
too late, I've got inferiority complex XD

and tulac, that wasn't my idea and choice to be here.
Huge physical pain, bad diagnosis and many health problems...Get the idea?

It's strange that people think that one could isolate herself completely from the world from the very own will. "Illness" is what would first come to my mind. But maybe I'm a minor.

Aaah, thanks for explaining that, Kamiko. i'm sorry to hear you're so ill. I hope you recover soon...no matter what the diagnosis is. I guess I was thinking of myself a little. I tend to be a bit isolated as I'm a shy person and find it hard to meet people who are on the same wave-length.

Christmas cakes last for years and years, and they are always yummy, especially when you eat them on a day that isn't Christmas - so they can take their "proverb" and shove it! :D

doesn't matter. safety doesn't come first.. at least on your birthday... life isn't made to waste it between four walls(no matter the problems that you have), cause death is for the "four boards and two nails". get out of the house, climb a mountain and thro.. no.. just go out :D
on april 27th, a friend of mine turns 18 :P so i'll be drinking for you too :D

good idea
i bet you never had a toast for your birthday in slovakia :D i mean..like speech, not bread

Well I wish you'd get better. I've heard that spirits play a big role in resistance to illnesses and recovery so don't get down. In your room you can read --surely you didn't know it until I told you :P --, but what all winners like to do is posting a lot in the Abandonia Forums.

You're turning 25 and are afraid of it? Feel bad about it?

I guess I can kindda relate to that. I was scared when I turned 18, then when I turned 20 and then again when I turned 25. It always seemed that those years ment some major change, like s milestone that shows how your life passes you by.
I was also afraid of getting my diploma, because it was another milestone that would mean I would have to leave my "carefree days" behind me and become somebody else.

The best advice I can give you is to start trusting in yourself. No one should tell you how your life should look like. No problem can be so big that it could stop you from achieving your goal - but the goal really has to be yours. If you're trying to live up to somebody elses expectations you won't have enough inner strength to overcome the obsticles - because your body and mind just won't see the point in it, but if you'll really start persuing your goals, you will find hidden strength within you. Don't worry.

Sometimes all you need is some blind trust.

I guess it might be uncomfortable to talk about it in public, so feel free to send me a PM or an E-mail (you can try your luck on MSN but I'm rarely using it) if ever you wish to talk about it.

Oh and just to maybe brighten your face - in my country 27th of April is one of the major holidays and most of Slovenia feels very proud about that day!

why is everybody taking it so dramaticaly? i seriously think there is nothing good or wrong about being in higher age. and boy, 25?!(i mean girl) you r just like breezy white blossom on a cherry tree(not even purple yet).

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(_r.u.s.s. @ Apr 21 2007, 07:54 PM) [snapback]287859[/snapback]</div>No, there is nothing wrong, but at least in my case I've always been wondering have I already missed out on something? Was my life really fullfilling enough? And special days like birthdays, New Years... seem to be just the sort of days when I start to wonder, because I get the sense of time passing by. Nothing wrong with getting older, but simply letting time slip away without getting enough out of it can be a reason to change something in your own life and start living a life of greater quality.

Hmm that's interesting I never really notice my birthdays as a milestone or something important, the only difference I felt when turning 18 is that I was actually legal to do some things but that has never stopped me in the past. Also I am going to college from high but I take it as a change for better not worse. There is really nothing bad with growing older as long as you can do things you want.

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Sebatianos @ Apr 21 2007, 08:13 PM) [snapback]287862[/snapback]</div>No, there is nothing wrong, but at least in my case I've always been wondering have I already missed out on something? Was my life really fullfilling enough? And special days like birthdays, New Years... seem to be just the sort of days when I start to wonder, because I get the sense of time passing by. Nothing wrong with getting older, but simply letting time slip away without getting enough out of it can be a reason to change something in your own life and start living a life of greater quality.
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It's hard to find a quality when you're living years of endless solitude in those 4 walls of your own room, you don't have even a single friend to talk to, no firendly shoulder to cry on, when you had to paused your studies on university and all your days are simply hours passing by...

Also, I've got the feeling that I've betrayed myself from the past ---------> http://hitoribotchi.livejournal.com/1222.html

Hopefully things will get better for you, but if you have such a negative stance and only feel sorry for yourself then that is your own fault. You don't have to let time pass by, you can educate yourself about things that interest you over the internet you can really learn a lot of things - from your room. If you feel lonely you can chat with people or discuss with them over forums. (I know it's not like physical communication, but at least it counts for something doesn't it?)
To conclude you should take the best of any given situation no matter how hard it might be for you and how hopeless it might seem, a bit of optimism and you'll be back on your track.

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Kamiko @ Apr 21 2007, 09:34 PM) [snapback]287868[/snapback]</div>Sometimes people make up dreams of what they will do in the future and they dream them for so long, they start thinking those things must become real. But those may become dreams that come from our minds, because we've convince ourselves they are the right dreams for us. But life should bring us new dreams, those that come from the heart and are real here and now and are not an echo from our past. Dreams that you can not predict, but should follow and even abandon if you at any point feel they are not the right dreams anymore.

Do not be afraid of something differnt, something new, something uncertain. The only constant in life is the the process of change.

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Tulac @ Apr 21 2007, 09:48 PM) [snapback]287872[/snapback]</div>
At first I couldn't educate myself in here, because the physical pain was two much to bear. I could hardly stand up sometimes. And the painkillers did no good.
Now, those pain attacks are not that much, but before I knew it, some time has past. And sadly, I've forgot most of the things I was learning so hard (I was on the third year of studies on Japan's language and culture). When you're not using a langugage, you're forgeting it. I forgot a lot. A LOT! But know, when I'm still a prisoner of my tired, worn out body and the threat of new pain, I don't feel like studying at all. Not only I don't have the right materials and no ocassion to learn on my mistakes, but I've also have NO PHYSICAL STRENGHT to just sit up straight and spend hours and hours on practicing kanjies (like one sign, 7 readings, 30 elementar connections with other signs, etc., etc.) With all my problems with heart, sleep, etc., I just can't do it :(

and...why do you think I didn't try internet to kill some of my loneliness? :sos:

But I agree that optimism is notwhat I use often.
No, I'm not an optimist at all.



sorry for my poor english

Well you can always learn over the PC, that requires much less physical strength and it doesn't have to be school related, whatever interests you in life is the key, just something to keep you occupied. If you're not an optimist then things will be much harder for you.

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Tulac @ Apr 22 2007, 01:12 AM) [snapback]287893[/snapback]</div>
learning over the PC is not for me <_< Tried few times but did no good.
Practice use and lots of self-made notes, that's what I prefer.

*sigh* Now I'm too old to die young :blink:

"On the 24th everyone wants the cake"

So what does 'want' mean?

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Kamiko @ Apr 22 2007, 01:40 AM) [snapback]287895[/snapback]</div>What about reading? Not just referece books but stories. You can learn from them as well.
But maybe that doesn't fit in your educational aim? :huh:

Really - complaining and throwing your hand (although that gesture might be too exhausting ;) ) won't help.
You know, I did civil service in a hospital.
There was this guy (about 50) who really couldn't do anything. But all of a sudden he said to me one day:"Gimme something else to drink. This tea sucks." I was surprised and very amused at the same moment, since he didn't have the strength to speak when he arrived.
Days and weeks and months passed. We always would make fun of the nurses and he would gripe about the occupational therapist. :)
He finally left the hospital at close to healthy weight (he was a fether-weight before) and had just to walk on a stick for longer distances.

Why am I telling this?

YOU CAN DO IT!!! :brain: :ok:

Welcome to the club. XD

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(the_fifth_horseman @ Apr 23 2007, 02:48 PM) [snapback]288091[/snapback]</div>here's a virtual Coke with 30 old year Brandy for you

Pardon me if I am impolitely, but what disease do you have that keeps you from getting out ? I know people with bad dignosis and still go out and talk with someone, they can't stand up, they use a walking stick or someone to help, a wheelchair they even walk on their knees and they still go out. There is no diseases that can keep you from socialising. And finally if you believe in your strenght you will start to feel better, as a doctor said once, most of our diseases are in our imagination.

This is deppresing, honestly, I was once like you, the lonely guy, no one to talk with but somehow I passed this giant, no! try titanic obstacle and you will see how nice is to share your hobbies, opinions on politics, art, BTW your drawings are pretty good, I like them. Anyway try and fight your "demons", or they will eat you inside piece by piece. All artists suffer...

I don't know if I really want to broadcast this, but I haven't celebrated my own birthday for I don't know, 20 years perhaps? Sure it kinda sucks but then again there are days every now and then that are better than any birthday :) and always for silly but unexpected reasons. I guess the latter is what makes those days so great, and the sillyness of it makes it really easy to enjoy without having to spend a single thought on why it is so great. I'll just accept the day for what it is and enjoy it.

Being "strapped down in solitude" by whatever sort of illness can be brutal for sure but I mean, Stephen Hawking wasn't supposed to live past his 20th, but then he decided he was the judge of that, and so he kept going despite everyone saying it couldn't be done. He simply wouldn't accept being "strapped down" and that decision did the trick. I know for a fact that these kinds of "decisions" won't come to mind all that easy, but I also know for a fact that the unexpected can help us make those decisions.

Ok, I think I've said enough now, but do yourself a favour: Be sure we will have a toast here, so drop in on the 27th and who knows what may come out of it :)

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Mighty Midget @ Apr 23 2007, 09:14 PM) [snapback]288191[/snapback]</div>You didn't celebrate your birthday since you were 50? :huh:

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Tulac @ Apr 23 2007, 10:22 PM) [snapback]288195[/snapback]</div>You didn't celebrate your birthday since you were 50? :huh:
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LOL What? You figure I'm 70 do you? 36 is more like it.

Well. We are planing to give you a birtdhday cake :)
Cheer up. We are with you :ok:

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Kamiko @ Apr 20 2007, 08:39 PM) [snapback]287760[/snapback]</div>My mother used to bake doorstops, fruitcakes for Christmas that would stop bullets. I loved (and ate) them anyways. Now I am married and I look forward to each November when my wife gives me the shopping list for the next batch of Christmas cakes. My brother was gifted with one of my wife's cakes, this year. To stay within the limits of his diet, has has slowly been eating the cake for the last four months. I cannot fathom why anyone would be less than overjoyed to receive such a gift.

I did not start dating until a few months before my twenty-fifth birthday. After a bad relationship that mercifully never progressed to physical intimacy, I met a second woman that seemed to find me attractive. We have been together for nearly the last fifteen years, nearly thirteen as husband and wife.

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(rlbell @ Apr 26 2007, 03:28 AM) [snapback]288465[/snapback]</div>That seems to be roughly my recepiet as well! But I started a bit later and we've lived together for almost 6 years before getting married last year.

You mean earlier? 29-6 = 23 which is already earlier than rlbell. :P

Will people stop calculating other people's age? It's getting confusing. :blink:

I received a lovely gift and thought I might share :D

here it is ---> http://www.deviantart.com/deviation/53901696/

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Tulac @ Apr 26 2007, 05:23 PM) [snapback]288529[/snapback]</div>Ah yes, but you've confused my age... the year of birth is not enough, for I'm still quite some way away from turning 29 :bleh:

Anyway - cute comic, reminds me a bit of some American short stories... a bible salesman stealing a girl's wooden leg... quite "fun" (Flannery O'Connor: Good Country People).