OK, I'm dealing with similar situations at least once monthly and I have to tell you you've given us way too much information.
Many students I teach complain about the house (or school) rules. Before it is possible to give any advice some background information on your father should be known (but as it's probably way to personal, you really should not give it).
Just a feeling I get from what you said.
He doesn't know how to deal with the situation. I'm sure he wants you to have a good average, because he's convinced it will make your future better (and he's right in thinking that), but I seriously doubt he understands your needs (in his days they didn't have the internet or cell phones - it's highly likely he's convinced you're wasting too much of your time with such technological gadgets and toys and that they are distracting you from importaint things in life).
It's true that if you'd be able to spend all the time you spend behind the computer (or using the cell phone), you'd probably have a much higher average, but if you'd study non-stop without a pause you'd probably develop other problems (everybody needs time to relax).
It may always be connected to his current situation in life (I know my own father had quite a few rough years with his job hanging on a thread exactly at the time I started university - every non studying moment of my life must have seemed like a strain on the houshold budged to him - not to mention the things I've bought for myself in that time, although with my own money).
So you should first of all calm down and think about it. Try seeing it from his point of view. Not because he'd be a parent and automatically right or something, but because unless you understand him and his reasons for behaving this way you won't be able to convince him to change his mind (if you'll ever succeed with that).
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