[ReamusLQ]

I read up to about page three thoroughly, and then kind of skimmed the rest because some of it was becoming redundant to me, so I apologize if I repeat anything that has already been said.

I am against homosexuality, although I do not hate gays and lesbians. I believe it is wrong, but I have a lot of gay friends (being in theatre and Opera) so I have spent a lot of time with them. A few things have been brought up here that I would like to address from my understanding, and from my talking to many homosexuals.

First, the issue of it being a psychological or physical condition. To be honest, I believe it could be either, although I believe it to be mostly psychological. I have reasons though, so read before you jump. I have a really good friend in my church (he's twenty seven I think) who is a homosexual. In Mormonism, this is looked down upon, but he lives a completely celebate life, and loves the church more than his own desires. He has gone through therapy to try to no longer have these homosexual urges, but they have been unsuccessful. However, once when I was talking to him, he told me he did not always used to be gay. He relayed the story to me of how he was sexually molested by a guy in the locker room when he was fifteen (loving girls, had a girlfriend, etc.), and he "felt" something in side of him change. After that experience, something actually changed inside of him, causing him to have gay tendencies. This could be called a physical condition in some eyes.

However, if you TELL a homosexual there is something physically wrong with them, they will be incredibly offended. Because if there is something PHYSICALLY wrong with them, that means they are a freak of nature. As much as someone born with only one arm, or someone with fetal-alcohol syndrome, or crack babies. If you ask many homosexuals, they will tell you it's their choice, and they have their prefered sex. By saying homosexuality is a physical disorder, you might as well be screaming "FREAK!"

As far as adoption into homosexual couples goes, I believe this is wrong. I have a homosexual aunt. She and her partner decided to adopt a baby, and be like normal parents. Their daughter is one of the most messed up kids I know. She is a few years younger than I am, but she has serious mental issues because of the way she grew up. She is heterosexual, but her entire life she has been taught to accept homosexuality, and has been raised in an atmosphere thick with it. She WANTS to like boys, and she does, but she feels like she is hurting her parents by doing so. She goes to a psychologist every other week or so, and she has been diagnosed as being bi-polar and schizophrenic because of the way she has been raised. At school she talks about her "Mom" and "Holly" because she doesn't have a dad, but her "dad" doesn't want to be called "mom". She doesn't have two moms...she has a mom, and a "holly" (her other "mom's" name) She is very confused, and very messed up, because of the way she was raised.

Also, homosexuality CAN be a psychological issue, because there are many people who have overcome it who have wanted too. Also in my church, there was a homosexual man who really did not want to be. He went through reperative therapy, and it turned out he was turned to homosexuality because he had an abusive mother. After a year or so of reperative therapy, he no longer had these homosexual urges and is a complete heterosexual.

I believe bisexuality is more of a choice, and not a condition. Just because you fool around with both sexes does not make you bisexual. I have a friend who says she has fooled around with girls, simply because she was so horny at the time. I believe bisexuality to be more of a fad now than a condition or a true sexuality. Reason being, because at my school, a group of my friends (seven girls) all decided to be bisexual...on the same day. And this went on for weeks. These seven girls turned bisexual all together, all at once. It has kind of become a "cool" thing and a fad.

Also, one of the things I find most disturbing about homosexuals, is how..."gay" they begin to act. A friend I had in theatre came out of the closet about three years ago. When he first came out, it was like "Ok, your gay...let's go dirt biking!" He was totally cool. However, after a year he started walking with the wrists turned out, and his hips swaying back and forth more and more. A few months after that he started developing that homosexual lisp. His clothes started getting a little more effeminate, and he started to wear light make up. He's never gone full drag, but my friends and I watched him with just...amazement. Even some of my other gay friends who you couldn't tell were gay by looking at him were a little disgusted. That manner of lisping and turned out wrists is a choice. It's like "well, I'm gay, so I better start acting like one." I asked him once why he totally changed his appearance, and he said it made him feel more like a girl. I told him "dude, look around...point to ONE girl you see talking like that, or walking like that." He couldn't name one, and he actually got less and less so. He still flicks his wrists and such, but what is the point?

Another story, but about a lesbian friend of mine this time. Used to be a really cool girl. Wore beautiful dresses, beautiful makeup, beautiful red hair, etc. She was very elegant. She came out of the closet as a lesbian. My friends and I say "ok, you're still cool, I just can never date you now :whistle: " Two weeks later, she has burned all of her dresses, chopped her hair to dyke length, dyed it black, threw out all her makeup, dresses in all guy clothes everyday, and is one of the CRASSEST girls I have ever known.

Why, when people announce they are gay, do they feel the sudden need to change?

Those are my thoughts...as I said, I apologize if there are repeats.