Hmm. I have a few things to say to the current turn of the conversation.
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Originally posted by Triton
I find this to be a highly ignorant statement.* If you don't want kids, don't breed them; if you don't want to be raped, don't skank yourself out and avoid being alone and take self-defense lessons. Not all adoption agencies are businesses either, but I guess you didn't do your homework long enough to find that out.
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Regarding ignorance, I have to say that this is probably one of the most unfounded statements I have ever heard.
Some of you may know I left college less than a year before receiving my degree. What may be a shock to you is that the reason I left was because I was raped. I was working on my independent study ethnography project when I attended a frat party to take notes on behavior. I have never been an incredibly social person, and would certainly never have been qualified as a "skank", and I was there minding my own business, taking notes, when I started to feel sick, and went to the bathroom. I blacked out, and came to many hours later, outside of my building, with no idea how I got there, where my stuff was, or why I felt like such crap.
I went to the clinic, and after I had explained what happened, the nurse drew my blood and performed a rape kit. It turned out that someone had slipped GHB into the diet coke I had been drinking.
I was not dressed sexily (I never really have been "fashionable"), I wasn't alone, and the effects of GHB and similar date-rape drugs render self-defense useless.
I left the university because I never even saw the face of the person who did that to me, and it got to the point that I was so paranoid, I thought every man I met could be the one who had attacked me. It got to the point that I couldn't even leave my apartment without feeling sick.
And as for this:
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Originally posted by Triton
EDIT: Also, what's so bad about rape anyway? It's just sex. The past several posts have seen people tell me that sex with different people is A-OK, so why bother resisting if you're being raped? It sounds hypocritical to me.
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What's so bad about rape, and any other sexual abuse, is the fact that the person has no choice in the matter. It is a violation in every possible sense of the word. What is being discussed here is
consensual sex, which by the very term, is defined as the informed decision (read: choice) to have sex by a person who is determined rational enough to give consent.
And to turn things back to the actual topic (and I am sorry for my long post, but I thought I had a right to address the opinion that women bring rape upon themselves)... I am incredibly thankful that I did not become pregnant, and wasn't forced to deal with the choice of aborting a child on top of all of that.