A tough one. I don't know your dad's background, and that may very well have a lot to do with this. If his family worked 48 hours a day to get anywhere, then I can see his reasons a bit clearer, I think. He wants you to get as far as anyone can go, to make sure you can make the best life for yourself later on. STILL: I think he is too harsh, and if he is as unsupportive as you say here, then it's hard to appreciate his reasons or concern. It will also make it harder for you, I believe, when he puts all that pressure on you.
I said this in the SB, but I can't agree it is you who put yourself in this situation. It is his wish for you to succeed that created the situation and put you into it. It's his choise and his call and it's unfair to blame you.
Perhaps your mom can talk to him about it, make him see that support lifts more than threats, and make him see that by taking away some of that weight he put on you will loosen you up and make it easier for you to meet his demands.
Just my initial two bits. I might add more later, if someone else haven't already said what can be said.
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