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[rlbell]

Originally Posted by DoomYoshi

If I lived in Rotterdam, I would beware

I am feeling confused because I am feeling despondent but I should be feeling happy. I have achieved every man's dream: permission to cheat on his girlfriend. However, even though she totally agreed to it as long as it was only with one girl, nobody else agrees to it. People are saying I should respect her and not do it anyways. The people in my play are not talking to me unless they have to. My social group has totally excluded me. My relationship with both girls has suffered. I am alone... and an asshole.

It seems to me that you might have a healthy conscience, pay more attention to what it tells you, in future, and you will be well served by it. You are experiencing guilt, because you are not the hedonistic libertine that you thought you were. Worse, you tried it among peers that do not really accept such things.

Not that I am a source of sage advice, on relationships, but I feel that you should explain to the second woman that it was a gross error in judgement and break it off. After that, go back to the first woman and apologize for putting her in the horrid position of having to choose between allowing you to dally, or risk losing you. If she accepts you, have her talk to your friends. Otherwise, bemoan the terrible fate of getting exactly what you wished for, so your friends will realise that you are a repentent former-asshole. To sum up: seek forgiveness and acquire a taste for crow, as you will be eating plenty.

If you are catholic, go to confession-- that is what it is for.