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[Iron_Scarecrow]

That's possible, but she does seem pretty confused, in the end it is her decision but you have to keep showing her what you can offer like you have been. I wouldn't how much is too much but if you drown her in it she may get scared off.

Personally though I wouldn't try and force her to make a decision anytime soon, give little hints that this can't go on forever, but if she is pressured into a decision she'll always wonder whether she made the right one or not.

[Playbahnosh]

Scatty how old are you exactly? You seem very sure of yourself considering this subject that what I must do to n stuff, but there are gaping holes in your reasoning dude, no offense k: I was in this situation earlier, though not this completely. There was a girl that I liked to have very much but she was unsure(3 years earlier), accidentally I pushed on her too much and asked the straight question, of course she denied it and left. In this matter, I agree with Crow. Girls don't like to be pushed around, that I learned so far. Neither do I, but I can handle it for the sake of Gabi If I was to stand before Gabi "Now choose!" she will certainly be scared and leave me. Getting out of a steady relationship is no easy task even if you know that should be done, believe me I know this But I think a slow approach could turn the tide to my side... (But I could be utterly wrong )

I have a slight thought that Peter doesn't know a thing beetween me and Gabi other than we are dorm mates and friends. I think he just sitting back knowin Gabi is his "property" and he don't even trying to show love for her, "why bother?" style. I think he is simply too sure of himself. I think that's why my little suggestions and faint actions of love actually seems to work, because there is no counter-spell from Peter And I think if he finds this thing out he wont be out to "love her back" from me, he would come over and (try to :P)beat the sh!t outta me instead <_< or at least he looks like that kinda kid....

But I think you people's advices are slowly starting to work. She just sent me a PM in the morning: "You woke up yet? I just did B) I started to write this in the evening: Ákos... I just fear you from myself. No matter what you think I don't trust myself and you certainly deserve a more correct girl..." I replyd: "Don't fear for me, and certainly not from yourself You are the most correct girl I've ever met. To be correct it does not mean that you must stay if it's sh!t for you..."

I called her right after I got it. Her voice changed again, it was smooth and caring like on last Thursday. She giggled more and seemed more liking me. I havent pushed her any more on the phone, I was just nice and gave her all the attention I could give... Maybe something happened? I hope for good this time....

[Scatty]

Yes, I guess you're right, I'm too sure of what you have to do. People are all different, and your "style" if I may say so is certainly very patient, persistent and kind, despite occasional blows. Be just as you are and do what you think would work the best, not listen to the many advises from different people here. One has to meet his own decisions earlier or later, and through hard experience gather wisdom. One or another way it will work out between you and her, and I wish you best luck in that. Just don't let her go if you're sure that she's the right one for you and she has nothing against either

[Playbahnosh]

Aye aye Sir k: You see Scatty hearing other peoples opinion in a matter like this is more help than not. You give great advices that I couldn't figure out on my own in a hundred years. As I know myself, I would alrady blown this whole thing if it wasn't for you guys k: As thing goes on(I hope now not for long) I try to give more and more insight into this whole matter for you to understand and clear things, and you could possibly decide stuff you couldn't earlier. Don't underestimate the power of an advice. You guys gave me countless ones already and those are all forming this matter as we speak. You see people do stuff different, but if more people advise the same it is worth to take it Like that I don't push Gabi more than a small gesture and a few lovely words but don't leave her alone neither for more than a day. I took your advice and things are, slowly but, changing. And I have a wild guess that for good this time, thanks to you

I think I finally understood one thing, what Gabi likes in me, and other girls too. I'm unpredictable. In a good meaning of course. They'll never know what I'm about to say or do, and I think this mysteriusly loving behaviour draws them to find out my next move. They like playing

Update on the current state of things soon...

[TheChosen]

Man....

[Playbahnosh]

Originally posted by TheChosen@Feb 4 2006, 12:45 PM
Man....

What?

[Iron_Scarecrow]

Well, he knows nothing, so it makes for an easier steal.

LOL

Anyway I'd say just keep it up and hope for the best. I can't think of anything else you could do.

[Playbahnosh]

Originally posted by Iron_Scarecrow@Feb 4 2006, 04:04 PM
Well, he knows nothing, so it makes for an easier steal.

LOL

Anyway I'd say just keep it up and hope for the best. I can't think of anything else you could do.

who? what? where? :blink:

[Iron_Scarecrow]

I was talking about this Peter character.

[Playbahnosh]

Aw, that's different... But why should that further my standing in this matter? The problem is not with the knowledge of Peter, rather than the very existence of him... jeez, that sounded like if I'm a serial killer... But no...

The thing is, I don't know which is better, if he knows this or if he not. I mean there is a chance if he somehow finds this out he will simply dump Gabi. But then again, there is a chance that he will simply have a calm (with tears perhaps) talk with Gabi and they will more likely stay together more....

I encouraged Gabi to tell him this stuff, cuz I know that honesty is always better than living a big lie, this is my prime directive. But also honesty makes people digest things easier not giving any other option to think about (or wait for to be found out)... I think honesty is biggest good thing...

I miss her very much