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[gregor]

Oh man! This is so simmilar to what i had! the problem of majority of owmen is that they can't really decide. only few can do that and they will turn out to be a good leaders, while the rest are like Freud said "passive". at least from men's point of view.

I told to mine "decide!", she started mumbling, i said "goodbye!" and i left. was that stupid? no, because i want someone that would really really love to be with me. someone that won't think a second before deciding to be with me instead of someone else. someone that would not only say to me that i am a good guy, a good person, so much better than her boyfriend etc. but would also be ready to show it.

there is plenty of fish in the sea. and i think i caught one that is sort of shaped to my likings. she still has huge problem with making decisions. but at least once she makes it, it is definite and won't change it.

like i said - decisions:
If someone is better then the other one and if the other one doesn't fulfill your needs or is maybe even starting to be repulsive then choose the better one. on the contrary to conviction of many women - YOU CAN'T CHANGE THE PEOPLE! romantic movies are plays and are not real. once a jerk, always a jerk. always a jerk - dump it.

Logic:
i am surprised that women are so good in logic competitions, yet when it comes to real life they have a twisted one (at least from my point of view). I mean if you have a person who is treating you bad and who you dont' really like that much and if you on the other hand have a person who likes you, terats you good, and even you liek him then why would you choose the first one?

a sad fact:
beautiful girls love bastards and jerks.

[Playbahnosh]

Originally posted by gregor@Feb 9 2006, 07:45 AM
i am surprised that women are so good in logic competitions, yet when it comes to real life they have a twisted one (at least from my point of view). I mean if you have a person who is treating you bad and who you dont' really like that much and if you on the other hand have a person who likes you, terats you good, and even you liek him then why would you choose the first one?

a sad fact:
beautiful girls love bastards and jerks.

Loves knows no reasoning that's a fact. I contradict every single rule she had about coming together with someone. Almost every single one. And she contradicts my rules too. She is 25 I'm 20, she has a different world than I do, still we are here now. And she keeps being unsure still. This thing with Gabi looks completely impossible to happen, but it DID happen She is the kind of girl I would sacrefice everything... It simply doesn't matter what she has done or anthing... Even though it seems too unreal but it IS happening for some reason but I don't know love's motives yet... why does it happen that people don't believe in love after a certain age? why is that people stop feeling stuff? (or pretend to stop feeling?) Some people call me inmature because I belive in love and it's power, but hey if nobody would why is it worth it? It still seems to me that it's worth it, no matter all the dumping k:
She is the one of a kind girl who I want to be with, there is no one like her anywhere else I just know this more than ever. An if I evr going to search again I just know I will search for her in every single girl, and it is impossible to find another somenone like her...

Okay, some of you(or even everyone) may consider me helpless, I know. But I just can't help myself in this matter, I don't know what to do (other than leaving her because I can't do that, now it's certain heheh)...

I'm an idiot... I sill trust in love... But hell what is life for if not for finding our place in the world than rot in hell for all ethernety I love her with my life really... but I feel immobilized

[Iron_Scarecrow]

Well this is just odd.

I don't know what to say... uh, have fun. k:

:crazy:

[Chuck the plant]

Originally posted by Playbahnosh@Feb 9 2006, 11:33 AM
I contradict every single rule she had about coming together with someone. Almost every single one. And she contradicts my rules too.

And correct me if I'm wrong, but you AREN'T together, right? :whistle:

[Playbahnosh]

Originally posted by Chuck the plant+Feb 9 2006, 12:52 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Chuck the plant @ Feb 9 2006, 12:52 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-Playbahnosh@Feb 9 2006, 11:33 AM
I contradict every single rule she had about coming together with someone. Almost every single one. And she contradicts my rules too.

And correct me if I'm wrong, but you AREN'T together, right? :whistle: [/b][/quote]
you are right... but we could be if it wasn't for her bf... <_<

[Grinder]

I think I posted in this thread, but I can't remember what I
posted and I can't find my post...weird.

[Playbahnosh]

This seems like a spiraling matter. Going in circles all the the time. I am outta power. I'm tired, haven't slept well for almost two weeks now and I feel I'm getting ill. It seems my energy is depleted but I don't care. I will push on for the greater good.

I met her on the corridor 10 mins ago. She told me that Peter is here, and she accidentaly left the forum open and Peter started to read this very topic. I have mixed feelings about this :/ One of my side is blazing with hellish fire and wanting him to read all this, face what happened these days and get things straight with her. My other side is confused on what to do, but one thing is for sure, I don't want to hurt Gabi more. I haven't even wanted to hurt her in the first place. But it seems like only my evil side has a concept in this matter on how should I act. "Take revenge" my devil says "She took away your love, now you must take away her's! Go tell that Peter dude what's up! Or you wan't to be a coward in yer entire life you mothaf*kka?!" But no, I'm not that kinda man, I still care for her. And why ruin her relationship when it already seems ruined from here. Or I could be utterly wrong. I still love her I can't help it.

All I can do now is wait. For how long? I don't know. Maybe forever. I don't how much time does she need. Maybe someday she will realize the chance she missed, but then I would be nowhere to find. I just we could be happy together, but the only thing beetween me and her is Peter. A guy who doesn't know a thing about what happened in the last 2 weeks, and if it is for Gabi, he will never know. I feel sorry for him actually, to live behind a huge wall of lies Gabi built beetween them, but that is her decision so I can't do anything about it. If she wants to do it that way, I'm not the guy to intervene....

Well I don't know what to say really. I'm still here, still living, still waiting for Gabi...

[Scatty]

Shivering from being afraid of the consequences that Peter discovered it all? No biggie.
Earlier or later it had to come out, maybe now she will decide for one side. If I would be you I wouldn't hope for the best, though. Makes it easier to face the worst if it indeed happens...

[Neon Knight]

Her boyfriend will be pissed, that's for sure. But that doesn't mean she won't hate you for starting this thread. At least this will help her decide.

[Fruit Pie Jones]

I'll be straightforward:

I think it's time to cut your losses, because I don't see how this can possibly end well. The reward no longer exceeds the risk, at least from my outsider's point of view, and this whole endeavor appears to be sinking further into the red. You're putting more and more effort into it (possibly to the detriment of your health), and you're getting less and less in return. I mean, you said in a previous post that she officially dumped you. After that point, anything she does to lead you on, intentionally or not, is just yanking your chain...so to speak.

Bow out gracefully. Tell her that all of the uncertainty is driving you crazy, so you've decided to back off. If, at some point in the future, she gets her (stuff) together, she can look you up. Finding Peter and telling him all that has happened in order to drive a wedge between them is a bad idea. She would see that as selfish and immature, and she would be correct. If they were to break up because of that, it would not be to you that she would turn for comfort. You would be at the bottom of her list, not at the top. On the other hand, a confrontation like that might make for a good story someday, but it's basically your "nuclear option," so...nah, just don't.

Again, this is just one American's view (which will probably serve to reinforce someone's stereotype of Americans somehow). I'm about as removed from this as it is possible to be, and my perspective on it may not be reliable. Do what you think is best.